by Ernest Liu
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  • Sex is Not the Problem (Lust Is)

    sexIsNotTheProblemJohnny gave me this book over four years ago. It was his gift to the graduates of my high school fellowship.

    I’ll admit, it was a bit awkward receiving the book. I did my best to casually thank him without the use of an awkward turtle (which didn’t exist back then). I read halfway into the book and gave it away. About a month ago, I bought a new copy and finished it.

    Let’s face it – Sexual sin is hard to deal with. The fact that the subject sports a social taboo makes many of us feel like a lone ranger when confronting the matter. Whenever a speaker blurts the word “lust,” many of us try not to swallow or blink as if any reaction would expose our sinful hearts. The lack of communication and openness makes it seem like we’re the only one struggling with it.

    Joshua Harris wrote his book, Sex is Not the Problem (Lust Is), to battle all these issues, striking key points to help us regain hope in a lustful world. He presents powerful analogies that may reflect our struggle with sexual sin. Here’s my favorite:

    I once read the true story of a duke named Raynald III, who lived during the fourteenth century. His sad life illustrates how giving in to our lustful desires–the very thing we often equate with freedom–actually robs us of freedom and true joy.

    Raynald III had lived a life of indulgence and was extremely overweight. In fact, he was commonly called his Latin nickname, Crassus, which means “fat.”

    After a violent quarrel, Raynald’s younger brother, Edward, led a successful revolt against him. Edward captured Raynald but did not kill him. Instead he built a room around him in the Nieuwkerk Castle and promised him he could regain his freedom as soon as he was able to leave the room.

    This wouldn’t have been difficult for most people since the room had several windows and a door of near-normal size, and none was locked or barred. The problem was Raynald’s size. To regain his freedom, he needed to lose weight. But Edward knew his older brother, and each day he sent him a variety of delicious foods. Instead of dieting his way to freedom, Raynald grew fatter. He stayed in the room for ten years, till his brother died in battle. But by then his health was so ruined that he died within a year-a prisoner of his own appetite.

    Many men and women today are prisoners to their appetite for lust. Like Raynald, they look free, maybe even happy. They’re doing what they want. They’re doing what feels good. But the sad truth is that every bite of lust’s delicacies only make them more of a prisoner. When we indulge in a life of sin and do whatever feels good, we’re not free. We’re slaves to our sin. (45)

    I strongly recommend reading this book. If you are struggling with sexual sin, the reason for reading it should be obvious. You will discover just how true it is that God is the ultimate power that will allow you to win this fight.

    In the case you do not have an issue with sexual sin, then the book will help you keep on the path of purity. You will gain an understanding of how others are struggling so that you may give them sound advice.

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